A dear friend of mine is a lesbian, and in my book, towards the masculine side of the spectrum but certainly not "butch." I just typed and deleted "she" because PSB (my friend's initials) has chosen "they/them" as PSB's pronoun. Reading your article gave me some additional perspective, yet I have a hard time understanding why they can't just decide that the gender pronouns refer purely to biology and not societal constructs of masculine and feminine, but, I need to get better at respecting their wishes--so it takes me a bit longer to send a text, oh well.