ahh, yes, acceptance on a moment by moment basis without accepting permanence of unnacceptable (not that anything we have been talking about here is unacceptable, just connecting dots to other thoughts):

"With respect to Patrick’s inclusion of “perfect just as it is” and the Big Book passage’s “situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment,” neither requires a belief in total predestination for one to feel impacted by those words. In fact, while I believe that soul contracts do provide for certain events with varying specificity, I believe free will, both our own and through many degrees of separation, shapes our lives. So, then how can I practice accepting that everything is as it is supposed to be? I’m actually formulating this thought as I write. Perhaps, moment by moment everything is as it is supposed to be because there is no other way for it to be because everything that caused the present moment is in the past and there is nothing I can do to change the past so therefore the only possibility for the present moment is for it to be just the way it is and since there are no other options, that is in some way the perfect occurrence."

From my various thoughts on acceptance found here: https://medium.com/promptly-written/spiritual-prompts-for-the-week-of-june-12th-18th-86877724cd6b