amen

but our jobs are to guide and steer without controlling and interfering

as an aside, as I'm speaking to an educator (you), I have long thought every high school curriculum should include discussions of practicing Steps 4, 8, 9, and 10 of any 12-step program. These steps have nothing to with God or any substance or process addiction. They deal with self-awareness, responsibility, accountability, and forgiveness, both of others and ourselves. I suggested to the director of my son's prep school that they work these concepts into their curriculum and he is considering it.