Coincidentally, I read this great and relevant poem today. https://medium.com/illuminations-mirror/processing-pain-95deba813812 I also went back to that poem and dropped a link to your essay.

Supplementing your thought that I highlighted, "the thing you lost is the same thing that can stop that pain." That's from the second clip from Ricky Gervais's After Life in my https://medium.com/promptly-written/spiritual-prompts-5-29-thru-6-4-2f65ac86dfcf