employ emotional intelligence or even better, spiritual intelligence. My friend jules-miz mindful describes 12 aspects of spiritual intelliegence champined by Danah Zohar:

Self-awareness: Knowing what I believe in and value and what deeply motivates me.

Spontaneity: Living in and responding appropriately to the moment.

Being vision- and value-led: Acting from principles and deep beliefs and living accordingly.

Holism: Seeing larger patterns, relationships, and connections and having a sense of belonging.

Compassion: Having the quality of “feeling-with” and deep empathy.

Celebration of diversity: Valuing other people for their differences, not despite them.

Field independence: Standing against the crowd and having one’s own convictions.

Humility: Having the sense of being a player in a larger drama, of one’s authentic place in the world.

Tendency to ask fundamental “Why?” questions: Needing to understand things and get to the bottom of them within yourself

Ability to reframe: Standing back from a situation or problem and seeing the bigger picture or wider context.

Positive use of adversity: Learning and growing from mistakes, setbacks, and suffering.

Sense of vocation: Feeling called upon to serve, to give something back.

https://medium.com/illumination/when-mindfulness-becomes-a-spiritual-homecoming-fc238eab570