For me it was "because he's your father" or "because I'm your father." I wrote these words in 2013: "My father is emotionally detached from the world. He imperiously lives in his own construct of the world and everyone else, including his children, are but chess pieces in his game of life. What love he thinks he shows has strings attached. In Delray, after a few group therapy sessions with my parents, B., who practically destroyed his children, came up to me and said, “Man Greg, I thought my kids had it rough.”"

Still, I didn't fully see through him until 2020. Why I Canceled My Father https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/why-i-canceled-my-father-bcb60831ee35