Great piece Jenny. I am very pleased to see you use this word. So so so many people don't understand that it is the key to a healthy relationship of any kind. Not only between humans, but between our animus and our soul.

"...I experienced for the first time the feeling of Marcus and Greg occupying my conscious mind simultaneously, and we said to Rama:

'Integration is supposed to be a state of seamless interdependence — Greg cannot nor should lose himself to us — we should exist in harmonious symbiosis — we should each be aware of the other and of our separate completeness — the only thought that existed of this before we just wrote it was one word — interdependence.'”

From my essay 6 weeks ago https://medium.com/illumination-curated/my-understanding-of-god-life-death-and-the-between-lives-we-experience-with-our-many-soulmates-af641080747f

Change a few words and the same applies to relationships with others. In 2012, while at a rehab, I was mired in a codependent and toxic relationship with a borderline. My therapist asked me to write a paragraph on what a healthy relationship would look like. I wrote that "each partner should maintain their sense of self; no one should lose who they are to the relationship; it should be a partnership wherein each person maintains their autonomy; kind of like a treaty between, for example, the United States and Canada — contributions and rules are agreed to but each country maintains its sovereignty." (Nevertheless, it took me another year to break free of the attachment to her, and it nearly killed me.)

I'll close with one of my many favorite Neale Donald Walsch quotes from his book Conversations with God: “The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.”