Have you heard of the phrase "practicing the pause?" I first learned of it a few years ago when I edited a book for a Medium writer: "I first learned of this as the editor of John’s great book, Win the Day. Essentially, an emotion has tremendous energy for about ninety seconds (see also this recent short essay of his). If we learn to pause before acting, we can engage the rest of our faculties. If we act sooner within the emotional state, that next action adds more emotional fuel to the fire, and so on and so on, and the conflagration can consume us. John and others usually discuss this in terms of love-and-light-brigade-discounted but very valid emotions like anger (different from resentment — if one does not practice the pause anger can become seld-consuming resentment). I see that it equally applies to generally considered positive emotions like love and excitement (distinguish those from infatuation)(hi Ulf Wolf)(applies well beyond romantic love).

That's an excerpt from my https://marcus17043.medium.com/are-you-well-advised-to-follow-your-heart-dea0cbeb214b subtitled "Yes but not until you can discern the difference between feelings (follow) and emotions (process)"