Here is a quote from a blog post from another that I incorporated into my https://marcus17043.medium.com/why-do-good-people-fear-their-own-shadow-8e5a921ac775:

"When someone causes you no harm or slight yet you still dislike them, chances are they stir some kind of insecurity or uncertainty deep in yourself. Perhaps they reflect a trait you dislike about yourself. Perhaps you envy them for something." [emphasis added]

Skimming through my essay now, I see words of mine that speak about your daughters, including:

"many conflicts arise from pre-conceived assumptions based on the patterns people have encountered in their lives and that spiritual growth can ensue from each participant in the conflict examining their own role in the situation. In other words, which of their character defects, and let’s face it, we all have them, contributed to the conflict, in which when one fails to examine and at least admit to themselves their role, leads to resentment."