I agree with your hair splitting and the limitations of language. This story I read tonight talks about people should be fine just doing without purpose, which reminded me of the being instead of doing quote. https://medium.com/illumination/not-everything-you-do-needs-to-have-a-higher-purpose-33ca34eb5c
On the point about the soul and separation from the rest of me, that is a struggle from time to time. It was a huge struggle in the first few months after my awakening.
"To me, Awakening/ Awareness is when the conscious mind becomes aware that the soul resides in the unconscious mind and that there is a separateness. Everything after that, until it is achieved, is Integration....integration is supposed to be a state of seamless interdependence — Greg cannot nor should lose himself to us — we should exist in harmonious symbiosis — we should each be aware of the other and of our separate completeness — the only thought that existed of this before we just wrote it was one word –interdependence." The struggle almost broke me. https://medium.com/mystic-minds/spiritual-awakening-followed-by-integration-and-alignment-9d4595be7dc6