I always said I wanted to be cremated. My kids don't like that idea. I've since decided to leave it up to them as long as they don't put me in my paternal family plot. What changed my mind was when I moved to NH in Dec 2020 and in the time I lived there (I moved again three weeks ago) I visited the grave of my lover several times (she passed away tragically and unexpectedly in March 2020, triggering my instantaneous spiritual awakening) and the times I was in the cemetary were some of the most peaceful moments I have experienced,https://medium.com/paper-poetry/toasting-lindsey-with-tankas-f738272aed7c even though I am in conscious contact with her soul 24/7/365 ( https://medium.com/flowers-of-inspiration/12th-step-1st-step-conscious-contact-with-heaven-8854ae714389 )