I appreciate the wisdom of your essay. I also appreciated the dialogue between you and Frank. Reading your essay and your comments to each other recalled for me some work I have done on acceptance, particularly my last post to Medium two months ago, https://medium.com/promptly-written/spiritual-prompts-for-the-week-of-june-12th-18th-86877724cd6b , in which I shared some of my thoughts on acceptance and prompted readers to write about theirs. Rereading it now, I see that I quoted, cited and linked to your essay https://medium.com/change-your-mind/9-signs-that-youre-healing-spiritually-6422acb454e2 . I then wrote:

"With respect to Patrick’s inclusion of “perfect just as it is” and the Big Book passage’s “situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment,” neither requires a belief in total predestination for one to feel impacted by those words. In fact, while I believe that soul contracts do provide for certain events with varying specificity, I believe free will, both our own and through many degrees of separation, shapes our lives. So, then how can I practice accepting that everything is as it is supposed to be? I’m actually formulating this thought as I write. Perhaps, moment by moment everything is as it is supposed to be because there is no other way for it to be because everything that caused the present moment is in the past and there is nothing I can do to change the past so therefore the only possibility for the present moment is for it to be just the way it is and since there are no other options, that is in some way the perfect occurrence."