"I can’t take back the hurt I’ve caused other people and while I wish I hadn’t caused them, I don’t live in regret and shame. I can practice acceptance, take responsibility, and make amends. ... Imagining not having made the mistakes, or imagining having made different choices, bears no fruit. I can impact the future, both mine and my children’s, by accepting the past and trying to pass along what I have learned." That's from my very on point mixture of poeming and essaying, https://medium.com/hope-healing-and-humour/imagine-your-future-without-changing-anything-about-your-past-634bb61e7045