I saw this story hit our queue and wanted to grab it to read and publish because I figured I may be able to impart some advice to you--someone beat me to the publish button and I apologize that my fellow editor did not engage at all with your story. Please read this story of mine, which is an actual email I sent to my teenage kids about 14 months ago. I assure you it is not an admonition to you--it is supportive of your dilemma. https://medium.com/illuminations-mirror/life-lessons-and-parents-roles-an-actual-email-to-my-15-year-old-son-and-17-year-old-daughter-48c8ef4f4ccf