I suspect if I describe this correctly, which is difficult in a few words, you will understand. Did you see Field of Dreams? "If you build it, he will come," we don't realize till the end, and "ease his pain," all had to do with Kevin Costner's character's and his dad's (a very younf Ray Liotta) loss of their relationship and the pain that needed to be relieved was his dad's or their shared pain. I thought I could apply that to my dad and that together we could right family wrongs that had been perpetrated on both of us by his brother's side of the family but all he could see in the great business plan I proposed was that he wished he had thought of it 50 years earlier and used it to take over the biz for himself back then.