I think you will like this quote from Neale Donald Walsch: "The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek therefore, not to find out Who You Are, but seek to determine Who You Want to Be." There are many similar quotes in Conversations with God, Book 1, which is the only one of his plethora of books in the series that a mystic once recommended to me