I found my way here from Francisco's feature. I usually don't highlight top highlights but this one is so important. I recently wrote this in an essay of mine:

"so the marriages remain strong, when all the parties can’t always agree, they should still respect their interdependent rights to exist without always having to agree with each other. ... Any healthy relationship stands on an interdependent foundation. What do I mean by that? The parties to the relationship share goals. They each view the other(s) as having something to contribute to those goals for everyone’s benefit. The contributions do not have to be equal but the expectations of all are understood— they don’t keep score and have no hidden agendas. They do not have to agree on everything and they can disagree, even often. That’s ok — they respect each other's boundaries, values, and priorities. No one belongs to or feels subservient to another. Through open and vulnerable communication, they hope to share their completeness with each other and yet know that they can continue to grow. No matter how complete, no one has achieved perfection."

That isn't from an essay about love relationships. I used marriage as a metaphor for what I feel should be the case between science, spirituality, and philosophy. https://medium.com/p/a634f5446364