I'm sure you've seen my favorite parable: "A young couple are having marital problems. The wife’s mother takes them to see the Rabbi. The wife speaks first and tells the Rabbi what’s going on and her complaints. The Rabbi says, 'You’re right.' Husband says, 'but wait you didn’t hear me yet.' Husband tells his side of things, and the Rabbi says, 'You’re right.' Then the wife’s mother exclaims, 'Wait, you said they’re both right, how can this be,' and the Rabbi says, 'You’re right!'" I recently used that here, https://medium.com/illumination-curated/can-we-please-all-find-the-space-within-which-to-breathe-the-same-air-and-agree-not-to-agree-6b6b2c8077ec, in which I quote the esteemed NYT columnist David Brooks: "Moderation is not an ideology; it is a way of being. It stands for humility of the head and ardor in the heart. When you listen to your neighbor, you see how many perspectives there are and you’re intellectually humble in the face of that pluralism. When you listen to your neighbor, you see that deep down we’re the same and you hunger to deepen that connection."