John Steinbeck wrote a letter to his son that included: " There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had."

I quote that in my https://medium.com/write-under-the-moon/what-is-love-553648694528 that you might appreciate

"Right relationship." I wrote once: "As often said, which I found in Neal Donald Walsh’s Conversations with God, all emotions/feelings have their root in two base emotions — Love and fear. God is Love. Fear is an animal emotion needed for animals to survive in the wild, and when we heed Roosevelt and realize that we have nothing to fear but fear itself, then we can begin to truly live in right relation to God, and live in Love." I had in mind the end of the discussion of the 2nd step in the 12 and 12: "Therefore, Step Two is the rallying point for all of us. Whether agnostic, atheist, or former believer, we can stand together on this Step. True humility and an open mind can lead us to faith, and every A.A, meeting is an assurance that God will restore us to sanity if we rightly relate ourselves to Him." But I don't read it as God will restore our sanity. I read it as our decision to live in "Right Relationship," our action, properly exercising free will rather than turning over our power, that's what restores sanity.