"My father is the archetypical covert narcissist. At 53, [three years ago] I finally saw through him. All the contradictions in his life that had been gnawing at me for years finally became clear. I could see every lie when I stopped looking at him as the victim with unusually strong moral standards by which he has always claimed to abide. Once I viewed him through this lens, every contradiction instead easily fell into place like a jigsaw puzzle for ages 6 and above." That's from my https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/why-i-canceled-my-father-bcb60831ee35