otherwise known as emotional intelligence and practicing the pause. I first learned of this as the editor of John Cunningham's great self improvement book, Win the Day. Essentially, as described by Harvard neuroanatomist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, an emotion has tremendous energy for about ninety seconds. If we learn to pause before acting, we can engage the rest of our faculties. If we act sooner within the emotional state, that next action adds more emotional fuel to the fire, and so on and so on, and the conflagration can consume us. Discussed in my https://medium.com/@marcus17043/are-you-well-advised-to-follow-your-heart-dea0cbeb214b subtitled Yes but not until you can discern the difference between feelings (follow) and emotions (process)