Practicing the pause is a concept that I learned of while editing a book. I discuss it often. Here's one place that fits with your essay: https://marcus17043.medium.com/are-you-well-advised-to-follow-your-heart-dea0cbeb214b subtitled "Yes but not until you can discern the difference between feelings (follow) and emotions (process)" I try to avoid using feelings as a synonym for emotions because in reality, they are not