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Prompt #5 of the 50 Questions for Self-Reflection
How can you handle conflict in such a way that it yields intimacy and helps relationships grow?
American Cinquain
Listen
Hold soul’s windows
Relate to emotions
Address fear and anger with love
Share me
Dodoitsu
Why the fuck did you do that?
Triggered trauma memory
I thought I had dealt with it
We will together
“The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.” (From Conversations with God — Book 1)
In Del Ray, I was assigned “home work” that at the time seemed inapt. For that time, it was, but ontologically, it is useful. The most interesting was this assignment: “describe a healthy romantic relationship.” I wrote that each partner should maintain their sense of self; no one should lose who they are to the relationship; it should be a partnership wherein each person maintains their autonomy; kind of like a treaty between, for example, the United States and Canada — contributions and rules are agreed to but each country maintains its sovereignty. This described an interdependent relationship. It is the opposite of codependent.
In Rama I create with Lindsey winding my sails,
