"Step 10: 'Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.'
'Finally, the last step of making amends is to engage in the practice regularly. Making amends is an ongoing process that should be a part of your daily spiritual practice. Recognizing your mistakes and making amends is an integral part of your spiritual growth. Ideally, with practice, you will begin to notice more quickly when you’ve harmed someone, and you’ll make amends more quickly, too.'
Yet, the first half of the Step is much deeper than perceiving and admitting wrongs done to others.
'For the wise have always known that no one can make much of his life until self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he is able to admit and accept what he finds, and until he patiently and persistently tries to correct what is wrong.
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But there is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether we are drinking or not. That is the emotional hangover, the direct result of yesterday’s and sometimes today’s excesses of negative emotion — anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers.
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It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. But are there no exceptions to this rule? What about “justifiable” anger? If somebody cheats us, aren’t we entitled to be mad? Can’t we be properly angry with self-righteous folk?'
Yes. The answer to that last question is a resounding, yes.
Yet, what about that spiritual axiom? Something 'wrong' with us strikes me as extreme. For example, I do not believe it is necessarily wrong to suffer a wounded pride, as long as I understand it and thus recognize my role in the disturbance and thus head off a resentment. Step 10, the first of the maintenance Steps, implicates the deepest meaning of the Serenity Prayer, and the power of acceptance.
Regularly practicing Step 10 will lead to seeing:
'that all people, including ourselves, are to some extent emotionally ill as well as frequently wrong, and then we approach true tolerance and see what real love for our fellows actually means. It will become more and more evident as we go forward that it is pointless to become angry, or to get hurt by people who, like us, are suffering from the pains of growing up.'''
That's from my essay June 2021 https://medium.com/illumination/spirituality-redefined-ff45cb53eaf2, which you did read despite the 16-minute length. The quotes within the quote are from the Alcoholics Anonymous book, 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. The point of the second half of my essay is that every person can benefit from working steps 4, 5, 8, 9, 10 and 12
Readers of KTHT will recognize shadow work in the steps.
Step 4: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” Step 5: “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” [atheists and agnostics can ignore the god part] Step 8: “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”
Step 9: “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Step 10: “Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” Step 12: “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to [others], and to practice these principles in all our affairs.”