"The notion of life being fair or not being fair is a human-constructed binary that should disappear from the lexicon along with other contra-spiritual binaries that create irrelevant points of comparison.

Regarding the related phrase, “it is what it is,” I posited then that the problem with the cliche is that it is misunderstood. Perhaps it means life is neither fair nor unfair — stop judging life and comparing your life to someone else’s — your life is your life — your life just is — now live it." https://medium.com/illumination-curated/on-the-matters-of-life-is-fair-free-will-divine-intervention-personal-responsibility-for-3a94e696510