This describes moderation as defined by the New York Times columnist David Brooks. Most think of a "moderate" as having a political ideology between conservative and liberal. No, that's a centrist. As I quoted Brooks in my essay that you know well, https://medium.com/illumination-curated/can-we-please-all-find-the-space-within-which-to-breathe-the-same-air-and-agree-not-to-agree-6b6b2c8077ec

"Moderation is not an ideology; it is a way of being. It stands for humility of the head and ardor in the heart. When you listen to your neighbor, you see how many perspectives there are and you’re intellectually humble in the face of that pluralism. When you listen to your neighbor, you see that deep down we’re the same and you hunger to deepen that connection."

In other words, cognitive flexibility.