this is a lesson I learned in the rooms of AA--when listening to a share, though the facts may be different, if I didn't make that an excuse to say that's not me and tune out, I could likely identify with the feelings and get something out of it. https://medium.com/illumination-curated/the-self-healing-power-of-learning-to-identify-with-the-feelings-of-others-113f7697cf7a