This is how I react to the question of whether life is fair or unfair. "The notion of life being fair or not being fair is a human-constructed binary that should disappear from the lexicon along with other contra-spiritual binaries that create irrelevant points of comparison....I posit now that the problem with the cliche ['it is what it is'] is that it is misunderstood. Perhaps it means life is neither fair nor unfair — stop judging life and comparing your life to someone else's — your life is your life — your life just is — now live it." https://medium.com/channspirations/who-decides-what-is-fair-c252486bcad8