This is similar to how David Brooks defines moderation: "Moderation is not an ideology; it is a way of being. It stands for humility of the head and ardor in the heart. When you listen to your neighbor, you see how many perspectives there are and you’re intellectually humble in the face of that pluralism. When you listen to your neighbor, you see that deep down we’re the same and you hunger to deepen that connection." I cite that often, most recently in August in my https://medium.com/pitfall/the-world-especially-the-middle-east-reflects-more-shades-of-grey-than-any-box-of-crayola-crayons-50dca751d2db, in which after the quote I wrote: "In other words, moderation, regardless of where you fall on the political, religious, and cultural spectrums, allows the space to agree not to agree. How else can a multicultural and pluralistic society ever survive?"