This is the true message of the serenity prayer, https://medium.com/channspirations/the-serenity-prayer-df758d99c956

and of the the most meaningful words to me in "The Big Book of AA" found on page 417: https://medium.com/my-selection/my-selection-alcoholics-anonymous-colloquially-known-as-the-big-book-638b5ad7f2e1