Yes.

I have seen a slew of articles recently from women who don't want to remarry or marry and men who don't want to remarry or marry and all point to examples of bad, co-dependent relationships that they have had or they see their friends have. I have written that many marriages are purely transactional and amount to legalized prostitution (non-exploitative transactional sex should be legal but that's another story). Yet, at 56, and past two divorces and a few relationships since, including badly codependent ones, I still want a life partner and would marry again or not depending on whether she wants the legal end involved. So, now let's talk about what interdependency looks like.

"Any healthy relationship stands on an interdependent foundation. What do I mean by that? The parties to the relationship share goals. They each view the other(s) as having something to contribute to those goals for everyone’s benefit. The contributions do not have to be equal but the expectations of all are understood— they don’t keep score and have no hidden agendas. They do not have to agree on everything and they can disagree, even often. That’s ok — they respect each other's boundaries, values, and priorities. No one belongs to or feels subservient to another. Through open and vulnerable communication, they hope to share their completeness with each other and yet know that they can continue to grow. No matter how complete, no one has achieved perfection." That's from my essay that had nothing to do with relationships. It's from my essay that discusses "marrying" science, spirituality and philosophy as equal branches in searches for truth. https://medium.com/p/a634f5446364