yes, that is the other and perhaps more difficult side of detaching with love--I've written about it from the self-care side (you read it https://medium.com/@marcus17043/when-should-one-detach-with-love-f63180af8c8d) and I've thought about the aspect you discuss here but I don't think I've personally experienced it--actually, I have, but in the case I'm thinking of, which was a friendship, I realized that neither of us were being served by the friendship any longer and I knew that for a long while before I could bring myself to sever the cords