Yes, that is what I experienced and the lesson I learned regarding my father. He is my father and thus part of me will always love (I thought I was past loving him but as I type this my tears say otherwise) the miserable, covert narcissist, borderline personality prick, but once I realized that he was living a throwaway life, I had to cut that cord, and only afterward did I realize that was the kindest thing I could do for his soul and for myself. No one in my family will understand that not reconciling with him does not mean I have not forgiven him. I have. These stories of mine explain further all this. https://medium.com/grab-a-slice/canceling-my-father-the-ultimate-expression-of-empathy-dbf390772d26

https://medium.com/illumination-curated/life-is-school-for-the-soul-9b081dbe8453