Yes, yet when it comes to my kids, I have to catch myself from wishing nothing but happiness, or explain myself very carefully. You might appreciate this somewhat related email I sent my kids three years ago when they were 15 and 17: https://medium.com/illuminations-mirror/life-lessons-and-parents-roles-an-actual-email-to-my-15-year-old-son-and-17-year-old-daughter-48c8ef4f4ccf