"You have probably heard, 'try as you might, you cannot fit a square peg into a round hole.' Not heard is that a round peg will fit a square hole, but not well. If the diameter of the circle is just a smidge smaller than the sides of the square, it will fit ok but there will be lots of unfilled/unfulfilled space. That’s ok. Maybe. But if the diameter is any smaller than that, it will endlessly slide around and get bruised banging into the walls of the square, or worse, one’s round peg could be in a too-large round hole with no anchor whatsoever, or possibly worst of all, the round hole is too small and one got shattered trying to fit-in." From one of my essays on addiction and also from my email advice to my children on life in general. https://medium.com/p/48c8ef4f4ccf from before you and I encountered each other on Medium, which is probably far from the first encounter