You understand the narc well. My soul contract has included relationships with too many. Some unavoidable, such as uncle, cousin and father, the latter the more insideous covert variety. I broke off with him for a while. https://medium.com/grab-a-slice/canceling-my-father-the-ultimate-expression-of-empathy-dbf390772d26

and this American cinquain:

"Father

You crushed my soul

You cannot empathize

Living life as empty vessel

So sad"

Now I have limited contact so as not to harm codependent mommy and impose my will upon sisters, kids, et al. https://medium.com/illumination-curated/the-self-healing-power-of-learning-to-identify-with-the-feelings-of-others-113f7697cf7a

I have also had to learn from romantic relationships with borderlines with strong narcissistic tendencies, I tanka'd:

"You are the greatest

You’re disgusting I hate you

Wait please don’t leave me

Thrives sowing chaos around

Rollercoaster ride from hell"

decoder ring here https://medium.com/p/6c148e17f0d8

Lastly, with respect to mirrors and emotional vampires, I wrote: https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/what-is-the-source-of-the-myths-that-vampires-have-no-reflection-and-are-destroyed-by-sunlight-7bf7b8eedf93