Your entire post is an exercise in Steps 4, 5 and 10. The 10th step is“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” It's all another name for shadow work. https://medium.com/illumination/spirituality-redefined-ff45cb53eaf2
Sorry I've fallen behind on reading you (and others). September gets weird for me (today would have been Lindsey's 41st birthday) and I lost my laptop a couple of weeks ago and don't really like reading Medium on my phone. This morning I forced myself to my desktop. I don't like reading or writing from the desk either.