Excellent piece, Penguin. Provocative title. ;-) I highlighted much and made sure to read it all the way through before making any comments. The words I highlighed here, and these words later, "We’re all unique and we’re all struggling with being human in the best way we can," connect to my criticisms of AA (applies to all 12 step programs) and rasing hands to identify as an ____aholic. I have written, "The leaders of 12-step program groups accuse anyone who questions the dogma of suffering from terminal uniqueness and tell them to shut up, sit down and listen if they want to succeed. ... A group-think mentality that gaslights individual thought is the antithesis of spirituality." https://marcus17043.medium.com/efficacy-of-12-step-programs-for-addiction-treatment-c111fbffc10a

I believe that uniqueness is vital, not terminal. You may like my poem and discussion, https://marcus17043.medium.com/nonconformists-are-not-rebels-fdacdb633a58, which starts out with this these 3 stanzas (6 in total):

Question bedevils many, conform not conform

Are you asking right question, or fooled by labels

Act with authenticity, that’s path of Spirit

Die integrity intact, Sacred epitaph

Individual

Member of society

Nonconformists us

String unique pearls together

Beautiful necklace of life

Binary thinking

Polarity consciousness

Scourge of our species

Surf wavelengths between the poles

Coherence in the rainbow